Grudges. We’ve heard of them, we know what they are, but why do some of struggle so greatly to release them? People can wrong us, without question, and circumstances in life can be brutal. Whether acknowledged or not, when we cling to a grudge it alters how we look at life, impacts our relationships  and can compromise our emotional well being.The truth is that when a grudge keeps us from really living it’s nothing short of heartbreaking. The bottom line is that it’s just not worth it.

Grudge free is the way to be …

This is easier said than done. It’s taking a step back and questioning who do we bare a grudge towards and are unwilling to forgive for whatever wrong has been done. Realize this, to release ourself from a grudge may take time and lots of it. What is important to know that it is the ability to allow our heart to begin the process. Some  may have been the subject of severe hurt and pain. The process of release from a grudge and forgiveness is exactly this a process.

It’s easy to say just simply release what has caused tremendous trauma, pain or heartache. The reality is, this may take a lifetime to release. What matters is the steps towards this release and work towards being in an emotionally healthy state.

When a grudge keeps us from really living

This is what is often unrealized when we bare a grudge we may or may not be aware of. When we hold a grudge it can cause us to build an emotional wall that can impact how we interact and maintain relationships. Trust can be overtaken by skepticism.

Our grudge, whether we realize it or not, will weigh us down. It becomes an unconscious weight we carry around. You can’t see it, but it’s present and it’s heavy. If we are people who harbor a grudge towards numerous individuals our weight is heavy. Our mind can become fixed on what wrong has been done against us and we begin to anticipate negative situations and outcomes. That’s an exhausting way to go through life.

The compare game…

What snares some is that they feel that someone has wronged them worse than they have to the other person. To forgive is not an option due to stubbornness and the refusal to release something that they believe is owed to them. When it comes to a grudge or holding onto a hurt there really is no winner. Hurt and suffering on either end brings no victor.

This is where we must begin to be honest with ourselves and invest more in our wellness than the thought of baring a begrudging victory. Being emotionally healthy way outweighs anything else and it’s a great state to be in.

Leaping over our grudges…

When a grudge keeps us from really living we have decisions to make. Do we work on releasing what we’ve been lugging around or do we continue to be held back? It’s a choice. When we begin to work on that release it benefits us BIG time.

We can verbally release ourselves from a grudge, through prayer or even in written word. However this release fits you is best for you. You can write a letter to the person and never have them see it; rip it up, burn it. The reality is however we free ourselves is a gift no matter how you opt to take that step.

Take note…

Throughout the process take time for gratitude. How do you feel different? In what ways has your life been lighter or enhanced? The more focus on the positive and what we are grateful for the easier the transition will be. A list or post it notes can do great things for our daily vibe.

Grudge is a weird word. It’s something that many lug with them throughout the course of their life. When we begin to free ourselves, whether in a matter of a moment or over the course of years, it makes us lighter and kicks our quality of life up a notch. Life is simply more enjoyable.

As we begin a new week, it’s a perfect time to reflect a bit. What can be tweaked? What needs to be worked on? We’re all a work in progress and that’s a beautiful thing.

Wishing you a week of peace, love and goodness!